Wedding Vows: To Write Or Not To Write Your Own Vow

The exchange of vows is a huge part of a wedding ceremony. Regardless if you’ll pick a religious service, civil, military or opt for non-traditional, this element will always be there as this is the most treasured moment of the entire event. During this time, couples face each other, take a stand and utter solemn words to prove their lifetime commitment.

As a bride or groom, you can either decide to follow tradition or do away with the norm by personalizing your vow. Here are four (4) tips to help you make up your mind.

1. Challenge. Are you up to it? It could be a very challenging task for anyone. Since you get married only once, the ultimate goal would be to make it as heartfelt as possible. Are you confident with how you write? Putting too much drama into it may give soap opera programs a run for their money. On the other hand, keeping a light tone may turn it into something forgettable. Could you balance them equally?
2. Time and Resources. It could take hours to pour your heart out and make it perfect. With a lot of things on your plate – from the entourage to the reception details, could you afford it? Do you have a list of inspiration to guide you through the process of writing it? The whole experience of customizing your promises should be fun and meaningful in itself. The point of doing it would be useless if you would rush towards finishing it just for the sake of getting over and done with it. Could you manage them all simultaneously?
3. Significance. There are several reasons why you should stick to custom-made vows. However, how vital is this aspect to you? Would it make a big difference? There are others who focus more on the legality of it, meaning it’s practically the same for them if you tie the knot in a barn and backyard or in grand locations like The Oasis and The Glass Garden. For them, simple or grand, it does not really count. The important thing is what it represents. Are you one of these people?
4. Mutual decision. How does your partner feel about saying his/her intentions in front of everyone? If you see no problem with it, proceed. However, if one is indecisive, do not make hasty decisions. You wouldn’t want to be the object of embarrassment in case something goes wrong just because one of you did it half-heartedly, would you?